Wednesday, February 15, 2012

I do not accept Jeffrey Zaslow's death: an OPEN SALON piece at Salon.com

http://open.salon.com/blog/danbloom

4 comments:

Anonymous said...

I am so sorry for your loss, Danny Bloom, for your feelings of loss and senselessness of his death............it seems incomprehensible when something like this happens to someone so close to us, and of whom our experience is of a vital and vibrant person which it sounds like he is (present tense........and speaking with a metaphysical perspective as a priest did recently when speaking of the passing of Chris Hondros, a young Getty Photographer), it just seems incomprehensible. I felt similarly after my sister's passing in 2002. Could not accept it, and took me many years to come to terms with in a way that I night describe as accepting. I think it is appropriate -- and life affirming -- to not "accept" a death like this, and I have some feeling for what it feels like at this stage.


There is a poem here on the topic which may offer some solace and of which I have always been fond........am Edna St.Vincent Millay poem

''Conscientious Objector''
by Edna St. Vincent Millay

dan said...

DANNY REPLY: re ''ERIC ZORN AT CHUCAGO TRIBUNE REPLY''-- re:''Danny, I understand your [''anguish''], but I don't believe that this public airing of the woulda coulda shouldas is helpful to those who are suffering most right now -- his immediate family. there are times to keep certain thought to yourself, and I think you're missing an opportunity to do just that. ''

DANNY REPLY TO ERIC ZORN

ONE: I understand your comment, Eric, and I agree with you on this, on one very important level, that of his immediate family, and I apologize if anyone in his immediate family is reading this, but I am certain they are not reading my blogs online. It was never my intention to do anything harmful or hurtful on untowards to the immediatte family. TWO: My blogs and comments here are for those outside the immediate family, and many people have told me that they agree with what I am trying to bring up: and that these are important issues to disucss, again, outside the immediate family. THREE: I am not in anguish over Jeff's death, I am just sad like everyone else who knew him and how it happened this way out of the blue so unexpected. My saying in my blog post that "I do not accept Jeff Zaskow's death" is not meant literally. Of course, I know he died and how he died, and there are not woulda coulda shoulda issues here. I am not saying that. I am merely saying that after the mourning and grieving period is over, there ARE some issues about all this that might need to to be discussed as part of a national discussion about how we live our lives. FOUR: Again, I apologize to anyone who opposes my outspoken-ness here on this. I am doing this in the spirit of Jeff, and I am sure he would encourage me to go on asking the questions I am asking. FIVE: My deepest condolensces to his family, of course! I write not out of anguish but out of compassion and concern. There is a difference. Time will show I was right to speak up as I have. SIX: I have gotten lots of emails from friends of JZ and fans and readers of his saying they agree with me, privately. SEVEN: Sigh.

Anonymous said...

I've just skimmed your Salon entry. I've never heard of you and I don't
read Salon.

Lindor Reynolds
Columnist
Winnipeg Free Press

Anonymous said...

I got that detail from Jeff. What a hideous accusation.

Lindor Reynolds
Columnist
Winnipeg Free Press